From the introduction to (W)hole: "It’s ironic that of all life’s battles, the most brutal and destructive one is the one we don’t even know we’re in. ... [It turns out] detachment and emotional deprivation are especially slippery foes to fight. Taking on the “lack of” something is like trying to prove the negative. Though all may have been sunshine and smiles on the surface – parents in attendance, stable household, trappings of modest middle-class comfort and accomplishment – many of us forever walked in a fog, paralyzed with fear and resentment."
(W)hole is this author's journey from the "empty core," the "false self" toward the fullness of faith and family, and from the dis-ease and shame of trying to do it all alone - and inevitably failing - to the grace of finding, day by day, integration within and connections with others.
Life ... in no partucilar order picks up where (W)hole leaves off and explores the author's tendency to hit the milestones of his growth in a somewhat haphazard fashion. Only now, in my middle age, am I working my way through the very first developmental stages of trust, initiative and autonomy. Then maybe, just maybe, getting to things like industry, intimacy and integrity by my dottering old age.
A work in progress - this book as well as my life, of course - I am exploring the themes from my Judeo-Christian background of hope and forgiveness and how they interact and exist with those from my Buddhist buddies of no self, impermanence and, ironically, finding my way back to emptiness ... the good kind, that is.
"Why does the Lion roar?
Because he can!
Of his pride he is the proudest
And because it’s in the plan!"
...begins this ode to fulfilling our potential and being most fully the we that we are, the I that I am ...
"And in ourselves to show the pride
Of our wide and bright insides
Sailing high upon the tides
Shouting, “Yes!